She Comes First

She Comes First

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring A Woman

Book - 2004
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Publisher: New York, N.Y. : William Morrow, c2004.
ISBN: 9780060538255
Characteristics: xii, 228 p. :,ill. ;,22 cm.


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Feb 12, 2020

This book is written by a man for men and it shows. He discusses making women get into precise positions as if they were a sex doll instead of just suggesting they change position to where he thinks they should be. In my opinion, if someone isn't comfortable in the position he dictates, that they should probably just let them be. The more comfortable and relaxed someone is, the more likely they will enjoy it. but never says that He explicitly mentions asking for consent before sticking fingers into certain holes. He also tells them to try restraining their partner but never brings up consent. As another reviewer mentioned, he was really lacking any discussion about communicating with their partner. Instead of talking about if their partner liked something, he listed of a bunch of weird stuff to analyze about their body, such as seeing if the tip of their tongue was cold or if they had no spit under their tongue.

Sep 10, 2018

I though this was a good book for men looking to provide a more enjoyable sexual experience for women. The first half of the book basically covered the makeup of the clitoris organ and the importance of clitoral stimulation which I already knew from reading other literature on the topic. The second half covered techniques and helpful information regarding how to improve the performance of orally stimulating a woman.

Mar 03, 2018

This book was really helpful to get some ideas, tips, advice, and instruction on how to sexually pleasure a woman. The visual depictions were also great so we could see exactly what he was talking about, in regards to positions and techniques. It def helped me and my husband and gave me more confidence on how to speak up about what I want, and how to put it into words. Thanks a bunch Ian!

Feb 24, 2018

I was looking to add to my patient lending library on sexual health, so I borrowed this book. 2/3 of the content are pithy euphemisms and word play, which could have been condensed and more focused. The myths he busts regarding women’s bodies, orgasms, and men’s sexual function is handy. But his opus, which is supposed to be about technique was simply, his technique. Frankly, men don’t need a complex formula, they need to listen to what their partner likes. There were so many steps and so little about communication. It just felt like another dude thinking he had the key to ALL WOMEN. The key is communication and use of a vibrator, neither of which were touched on. Fail.

Mocha6ft3 Apr 06, 2012

I don't look, borrow, or buy instructional books on sex, but the title and the cover had me sold. I wasn't sure if the information in this book would teach or show me anything i haven't already tried but being curious and open minded i decided to read it. I've often felt that you can always learn more, and that no one person knows it all. While looking through this small book, i was surprised to see illustrations or drawing instead of pictures. But the information provided along with the illustrations showed me how much i really knew about the wonderful female body and how to give her an orgasm. I learned a lot from this book. I also like the fact that the author spoke honestly about himself. When i finished reading this book i was ready, willing, and very able to try this new information stored in my memory. I'm giving this book 5 stars!!! This book can help thoses who need knowledge and the right technique to bring their lovers to another world.

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