The Four Agreements

The Four Agreements

A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

Book - 1997
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THE FOUR AGREEMENTS BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are tired as opposed to well-rested. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. OVER SEVEN YEARS ON THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER LIST! In THE FOUR AGREEMENTS , don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. 'Don Miguel Ruiz'a book is a roadmap to enlightenment and freedom.' - Deepak Chopra, Author, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success 'An inspiring book with many great lessons . . . ' - Wayne Dyer, Author, Real Magic 'In the tradition of Castaneda, Ruiz distils essential Toltec wisdom, expressing with clarity and impeccability what it means for men and women to live as peaceful warriors in the modern world.' - Dan Millman, Author, Way of the Peaceful Warrior
Publisher: San Rafael, Calif. : Amber-Allen Pub. : Distributed by Publishers Group West, c1997.
ISBN: 9781878424310
Characteristics: xix, 138 p. ;,19 cm.


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May 10, 2017

I was really looking forward to this book. I read it in one day since it's a very thin book. I felt glimpses of inspiration but there is nothing ground breaking or life changing in these pages. I usually take notes from the self help books that I read but I found that there wasn't really anything super inspirational or helpful that I wanted to take note of and remember. It might spark some inspiration within you but perhaps this book was not for me.

Mar 30, 2017

A worthwhile little book – four simply told rules for living a caring and responsible life. And they’re reasonable commonsense rules …odd that we need to be reminded, but we do. I read it slowly over a few weeks, digesting, absorbing, attempting to incorporate these guidelines into daily life. It will be a book worth revisiting every now and then.

ArapahoeLesley Nov 09, 2016

Simple rules to live by but almost nobody does. I really liked the reminders this book offers and Ruiz wrote it in a way that not a single person can claim to 'not get it'. I'm not a fan of spiritual language and but I can get over myself enough to see that this for what it actaully is, methods of communicating the most basic of ideas so that people can see themselves in his examples. If everyone 'lived by the four agreements' I think the world would be significantly more tolerable because people really are ruled by fear and self-pity and the need to abuse others. I don't see why everyone shouldn't have to read this every once in a while.

Sep 13, 2016

This is one of my favorite books. It helps with communication and once that's mastered, I have found that my life has been simplified and less conflicted because of it. It should be required reading.

Dec 19, 2015

If you’ve read works by Deepak Chopra you’ll rest familiar with this book. The author has written other similar books but he bills this one as “a practical guide to personal freedom.” According to the publisher’s notes, “Don” Miguel, is a Mexican trained surgeon, son of a curandera mom, and a descendent of naguales or shamans. He supposedly underwent a “near death” experience, before immigrating to the United States is not clear, but this perturbation greatly affected his life and apparently encouraged him to become a “wisdom advisor.” It seems that he and his sons offer guidance programs to the public.

This book is filled with words of wisdom, and, in the end, while these words are not out of the ordinary I found them helpful, nevertheless, and based on good common sense. The book’s outline is based on the following advisory principles which the author embroiders into short chapters: 1) Be impeccable with your words, 2) Don’t take anything personally, 3) Don’t make assumptions, and 4) Always do your best. The Four Agreements will make a good gift for my grandchildren.

The Toltec connection is not made clear in this book, the word “Toltec” referring to an Indian culture that dominated central Mexico from about 900 a.d. to about 1200 a.d. If he claims any descendancy to it would be difficult to prove or disprove.

PimaLib_RachelW May 29, 2015

One of my favorite books for life philosophies. Would love to live according to these agreements - Do not take things personally, do not make assumptions, be impeccable with your word, and always do your best. Working on it...

Dec 29, 2014

When my girlfriend told me about this book, I thought it sounded interesting. The four agreements, as she remembered them, were things that I had kind of already decided for myself. She thought it was a really good book, so I thought I'd give it a read too. The basic premise of the book is that in the process of becoming a person, we are domesticated. During that domestication, we make agreements with ourselves. Some of them are true and some of them are not but they become part of our inner 'book of law.' Challenging those beliefs is difficult because that 'book of law' makes us feel safe, even if it's wrong. In order to break away from the pain, fear, and self judgement that goes along with those agreements, we have to make new ones.

I feel that the four agreements he lists are good ones. Like I said, I'd already started trying to follow them without actually reading the book.
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don't take anything personally.
3. Don't make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.

Of course he expounds on these, explaining why he feels each is important both for us and the people around us. I think much of what he writes makes a lot of sense, but I wasn't thrilled about it being explained through the filter of Toltec wisdom. I don't understand why a practical matter had to be turned into a spiritual one. I guess the pursuit of Toltec knowledge is this author's thing, but I don't feel that making these agreements sort of spiritual helped me in any way, shape or form. It's easy enough to skip over those statements and get to the meat of the agreements, but I just didn't need to be reading things like "Don't resist life passing through you, because that is God passing through you." Or "It is an expression of God to say, "Hey, I love you." Then you get to the very end of the book and there's a prayer to the creator. It seems out of place to me, you've got this whole book teaching you how to be comfortable with yourself and how to live without guilt and fear, but then you keep mentioning this concept whose very purpose is to fill people with guilt and fear.

It is a good book. I feel that living by these agreements had made me a better and happier person, but I didn't need a lot of spiritual mumbo jumbo to come up with them.

gerrycody Aug 04, 2014

I had to read this a few times to appreciate and I am glad I did. Some of the words I did not get due to cultural differences they had different connotations. I took what I understood and I applied it. I reread and looked up the words I did not quite get. It was SO worth the effort, very good book, saves a lot of heartache.

Apr 03, 2014

Absolutely awful. Four statements that make sense wrapped in magical nonsense.

Jan 17, 2014

I'm not big on self help books, so this was a simple, light, and brief introduction. The four points are some goals I'd like to apply to my daily life and I just ignored the religious parts.

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